Wednesday, April 9, 2008

A rose is a rose is wedded bliss...


Aaah, sigh, wedded bliss... Who'd have thought. Certainly not me. And there I thought it was really just going to be a bureaucratic formality - and in fact it was so much more. Sigh... Moon...

As a friend wrote to me in an email today: "You know, in many ways I believe that we receive gifts when we know how to appreciate them. Then we can nurture every special moment, work out the differences and walk a smooth and happy path with the one we love."

This is so true. Getting married the second time has been a richer, deeper and totally joyous experience. I'm happy being married - and I didn't believe I'd ever say that!

As another friend said, "I'm sure the "guides" are beaming from ear to ear, and saying things like "isn't it great when they do it the right way round like this? Work at their relationship first - get married as a result of that?!" and "it's beautiful when souls marry in reality, without the scales still on their eyes" - or something like that :-) "

The ceremony was short, simple and beautiful - with me in my little red dress.

First Patrick, our marriage officer and a really lovely man, read us a poem by Pablo Neruda...

I do not love you as if you were salt-rose, or topaz,
or the arrow of carnations the fire shoots off.
I love you as certain dark things are to be loved,
in secret, between the shadow and the soul.

I love you as the plant that never blooms
but carries in itself the light of hidden flowers;
thanks to your love a certain solid fragrance,
risen from the earth, lives darkly in my body.

I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way

that this: where I does not exist, nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.

Then he did a special cleansing and blessing ritual of the rings with water and fire. We said our vows, exchanged rings and he finished off with a Celtic blessing:

Deep peace of the running wave to you.
Deep peace of the flowing air to you.
Deep peace of the quiet earth to you.
Deep peace of the shining stars to you.
Deep peace of the infinite peace to you.

As we walked outside, moony and beaming, we noticed that the clouds that had filled the sky all day had rolled back to reveal the vast blue heaven while scattered diamonds glinted off the sea.

We arrived home to find a huge flock of guinea fowl in the driveway - not the usual mob - but a far bigger group with young ones and adolescents. We fed them and soon after the regulars arrived. The new flock flapped and fluttered up to the roof while the regulars filled the driveway and then they all sang - sweet syrupy notes filled with gentle twitterings - so very different from the usual raucous clucks and squawks. There is nothing quite like the sound of guinea fowl singing, it is sweetness itself. The guinea fowl, for those who don't know, brings the Goddess energy and the energy of protection. So as a final note to our marriage, we received a guinea fowl blessing. It doesn't get much better than that!

Dinner out was wonderful - the food a medley of flavours, woven together into a symphony of taste. And there were special touches too - flowers in our serviettes and a platter of sweetmeats at the end with the words "Congratulations on your Wedding Day" piped in chocolate on the plate with lots of little chocolatey hearts.

It was a good day and the best is still to come - the honeymoon...! On which note I will advise you that this blog is going into a short hiatus while I... well never you mind! :-)

Be good, take care of yourselves, be happy, be loving and loved, have fun and soar on the wings of grace and good humour.

With love and hugs to all of you.

See ya' soon...!








60 comments:

steph said...

What a day! AV

Sounds heavenly!

And I especially like the touch of a guinea fowl blessing.

Congratulations to you both and enjoy every moment *wink* of your honeymoon!

Steph x

Aerin said...

Louisa May Alcott wrote that no one can ever accurately describe a love scene - to those who have experienced them, every description is too tame. So I can only imagine the utter weightlessness you must feel, since your telling of the day was such so lovely!

Congratulations!

Baino said...

Ah . .all done and dusted. Congratulations Mrs ?
I'm so glad it was such a special day and a Guinea Fowl blessing to boot! I have taken the day off to do 'lunch' and will raise a glass to you both! Much love and enjoy the honeymoon! (I will expect pictures - of scenery - OK I'll go now!)

JaneyV said...

Sounds like a perfect day. The poems, the blessings, the gay former priest, the roses, the chocolate, the weather, the red strappy dress and just the right groom to boot!

Be very happy and have a wonderful honeymoon. Get drunk on love.
xxx

mystic rose said...

Congratulations!! and those blessings are my prayer for you as well :)

That poem by Neruda is my absolute favorite, it is intense and deep.

Rob said...

Congratulations! Wonderful poem.

Jefferson Davis said...

Wow...Double Wow!!! :) Congrats Vanilla! I am elated at the news. Congrats again! Sorry I missed your big day, but as an old Irish blessing goes:

May your mornings bring joy and your evenings bring peace.
May your troubles grow few as your blessings increase.
May the saddest day of your future
Be no worse than the happiest day of your past.
May your hands be forever clasped in friendship
And your hearts joined forever in love.

Anonymous said...

what a wonderful description of a perfect day! what a finale - having the symphony of the Guinea Fowl singing for you as a final blessing!
all you need is Love.

xxxx BEE

Absolute Vanilla (& Atyllah) said...

Thanks! The guinea fowl blessing was the icing on the non-existent wedding cake, Steph! ;-)

Thanks so much, Aerin! :-)

No, not Mrs anything, Mrs Baino, I'm keeping my maiden name - can't bear the thought of enduring the agonies of name changes, especially given our entirely hopeless Dept Home Affairs who does these things!
Hope you enjoyed that glass of something. And yes, yes, pics will be forthcoming! :-)

Aaaawww! Thanks, Janey!

Thanks, Mystic - and Neruda is very special, isn't he?!

Thanks, Rob! :-)

Aw, thanks, JD - I love that blessing - you are, as ever, a total sweetheart!

Bee, precious girl, thank you sooo much! And best everyone know that it was you that helped me get all excited about this in the first place!
Three cheers to my very special pal, Bee!
Keep this up, dahlink, and we'll get you blogging yet! ;-)

bart said...

an excellent day and one to be remembered... you've described it well, i could almost see it before me :-))

keep well...

Lane said...

What a day!

Beautiful.

Enjoy your honeymoon:-)

Rambler said...

hey have a great honeymoon..glad to know you had beautiful wedding.

Billy said...

Congratulations. Lovely poem by Neruda! And you're right--one mustvtake the plunge after working out the issues so that the scales are gone :)

witnessing am i said...

Congratulations Ms Vanilla!!! Wow. That is such wonderful news.

Enjoy your honeymoon and many years of "deep peace" to you both.

Lee's River/Zlatovyek said...

May you always walk in beauty.

Reading the Signs said...

Congratulations, Vanilla, I hope you enjoy your honeymoon.

lettuce said...

oh - so many congratulations and best wishes for you!

moonrat said...

congratulations!!

(pablo neruda is my favorite)

*~*Sameera*~* said...

Talk about surprises!!!

I am so happy for you dear!God Bless You and Duncan always and may every moment of your time together be wonderfully blissful.I could not light a candle or pray for you on your wedding day but will do so right away :)

Loads of love & hugs.Muaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah

puresunshine said...

your post makes me want to cry. especially with the thoughts i am handling.

Shameless said...

Hey! Wow! Congratulations!

di.di said...

Very nice, and congratulations on being newlywed. Wish you joy & happiness forever.

The (Mis)Adventures of a Single City Chick said...

Many, many, many congratulations and best wishes to you! May each day going forward be better than the previous. Wishing you luck, laughter and much love!

Matthew said...

Wonderful news! Thanks for sharing, I love the pieces read at your wedding. Enjoy the honeymoon!

SueG said...

I'm so happy for you! Have a wonderful time -- I know you will!

Josephine Damian said...

Much happiness and joy!

Love the roses and the detail of the guinea fowl.

katcampbell said...

How perfect, how beautiful! Congratulations on your wedding. Have a great honeymoon and rest assured your readers will be content not to hear ALL the intimate details.

Emperor Ropi said...

If I could choose I would marry once. I believe that I won't be drunk when I ask a girl to marry and then I would like to choose the best girl.

mouse (aka kimy) said...

congratulations!!! I can just smell the roses!

I know you are away now (winky, winky, nod, nod) but had to get my best wishes in.

sounds like a truly blessed ceremony...much is said for short, simple and beautiful!

love the celtic blessing - never heard that one before, it's wonderful.

hugs and look forward to your return and hearing about the 'family rated' version of the honeymoon!

Deana said...

Congratulations! I love being married, ours is a truly happy marraige and I think as you get older you do appreciate that more. The ceremony sounded perfect.

I hope your honeymoon is fantastic. Your flower pictures certainly are!

girl with the mask said...

CONGRATULATIONS!

girlinthemask x

Brianf said...

May the most you wish for be the least you receive.

dennis said...

Dennis wishes you much happiness and has asked that a blessing be on you.

Mother of Invention said...

Warmest congrats and hope you are having a lovely honeymoon!

We dnced to Billy Joel's, "Just The Way You Are" which seems to be the way we love each other and suits us...warts and all!!

Bonnie Jacobs said...

Two beautiful parts of your day: the idea that "so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep" and the blessing of the guinea fowl. What a day you had, and what wonderful memories you have shared with us. May you always look in the same direction, together.

Confessions of Cleopantha said...

Congratulations, may your sacred union be full of many many blessings!
What a wonderful surprise to visit you blog and find out you just got married:)

Wilf said...

Congratulations, A - marvellous news.
Addy

Jon M said...

wow!

Ello said...

That is so lovely! What a wonderful memory to treasure for the rest of your lives! I wish you the very best!

Lena said...

i am so happy for you!!! :)
and it seems it has been a beautiful ceremony and a wonderful day!!

may God Bless you both with all the happiness you deserve!! :)

Steve said...

Wow!
Congratulations!

Merisi said...

What a wonderful day,
full of touching moments.
May all your days be filled with love,
all the best,
M.

David M N Bate said...

Sounds like a beautiful day. Congratulations, from a man happily approaching his 6th wedding anniversary to a beautiful woman and mother of one gorgeous 4 year old.

Enjoy your honeymoon ...

Jude said...

Even on honeymoon you get hounded. Hope you're enjoying it. When you get back if you have the energy- know that you have been tagged!! Sorry had to choose someone!

Anita Marion Loughrey said...

Congratulations Nicky.

Debi said...

Oh! And wow! And oooh!

May you both have all you could wish for in your future together. Mazeltov!

JaneyV said...

Hope you're having a great time! When you get back though I have a challenge for you.....Sorry ! You've been tagged!

Wanderlust Scarlett said...

I left for a month and half and you got MARRIED?!?!!

I was gone far too long!
Congratulations! That's so wonderful!!!

Spring is the perfect time for romance. I am absolutely delighted for you!
Enormous hugs, all my best wishes and blessings to your union.

X's and O's
Scarlett & Viaggiatore

bleeding espresso said...

Awesome awesome awesome! Congratulations!!!!

Julie said...

Vanilla - have moved to WordPress.
Has some features that make blogging easier for me. Look forward to seeing you if you feel like calling in when you get back - have left links.

Muriel said...

Congratulations, a perfect day, love the poem

JaneyV said...

Hi Vanilla - hope you're having a wonderful honeymoon. just letting you know that my new blog is here (I closed Pastures New to the public to keep the kids private) so I hope you'll be over for a visit when you get back to normality. xxx

Princess Haiku said...

Congratulations and best wishes that you find lasting happiness with your beloved.

Gayé said...

Congratulations dear Vanilla. As described so beautifully by your very own words, your day sounds like it was just perfect. Where is the honeymoon?
Wishing you both all the best!
Gx

Hoodie said...

My heartiest congratulations, Vanilla! I'm a big believer in marriage (when done right). Sounds downright blissful. Have fun. Ever heard the honeymoon penny analogy? ;)

Vesper said...

Oh, Vanilla, what a perfect day! I’m so late to offer my congratulations but I do with all my heart. I am happy for you beyond words… May all your dreams come true!

Cailleach said...

Bless you both. I recognised the 'Deep peace' blessing! Hope you're having a lovely hiatus!

Mellifluous Dark said...

Congratulations! What a glorious day – well deserved.

Wishing you both happiness and an abundance of love and roses always.

PS: I have tagged you at mine, whenever you are back and have time ;)

Clowncar said...

How wonderful for you.

We got married in a similar way - 6 of us tromping out to the middle of the Sand Dunes, finding the perfect spot, saying what we felt in our heart.

The Neruda poem is lovely. Congrats!

DBA Lehane said...

My goodness I am away for a while and look what happens! You go and get married! Congratulations to you both!